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Holidays-Missing Loved Ones

I have always loved Holidays! A day off of work to spend with family, is how we always spent our holidays! Usually eating, talking and laughing… a lot 🤭 😊🤣and just being together! I really gave a great family that we love to spend time with!

But since my dad passed away, I kind of dread a Holiday. Yes, I think of my dad everyday, talk to him everyday and a lot of times cry! But Holidays, is just a huge reminder that we have this piece missing. My mom comes and leaves alone, I’m not thinking about what food to make sure and have for dad, or what he’d like to drink… and the list goes on and on of the thoughts that run through my mind. And I just miss him more on days like today! Oh and Thanksgiving and Christmas, can I just skip this year?! And maybe next?! Please 😓

I know, I know , I can’t skip! That’s not fair to my kiddos and that is for sure, NOT what God wants of me! I always ask God for the strength and grace to get through this season because I need all the help I can get. But come on, it is Tough!

And I hear from many that it gets easier as time goes by but I have felt as the days and months go on without my dad, it’s been getting harder and harder! maybe more realization that he is not coming back? Not sure. But I miss him! I just miss him. 😞

And then here comes my positive outlook and my hope; that I do truly believe That Gods got this! He is something that I can always count on to be there and I am blessed to have a Heavenly Father like that! But I’ll be honest, it’s hard some times to believe that! and I think that’s okay, because we all go through rough patches and maybe what WE want isn’t Gods plan. God has a plan and reasoning that my father passed away and yes, I am suffering through this grief. But man, look at Jesus and what he endured, but he still trusted his father and dying for you and me on the cross, was the ultimate sacrifice! But he trusted his Father and that is how I know God will take of us and I CAN make it through this!

Gods got this!! ( and that is what my earthly father always taught me as well!)

Miss you dad 🖤

(Many ask why I use a black heart all the time, in reference, to my dad – and Black is the color for melanoma cancer awareness, that my dad passed away from)

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Visiting…

This week my family and I spent the week with my mom at her place in Florida. My dad and her bought it October 2016 and December 2016 he was diagnosed with Melanoma…and they never went back.

They spent one month down their together and this was my moms first time back. They had worked so hard, finally retired and was finally able to buy a place in Florida! They were so excited and had so many plans…but they were their plans…not Gods plans.

While down their we continued to ask “why God? Why couldn’t have dad had more time down here?” When he talked about retirement, all he would talk about was Florida. 😢

There are so many times in our lives that we ask “why God?” And does God ever answer us? The good news- He does! he answers us! God has a reason for EVERYTHING! We have to trust him! Trust that He has a reason for even the smallest detail!

Even though I do not know why God took my dad, I will continue to trust Him! It’s hard! It. Is. Hard. 💔

I would have LOVED to see my dad in his Florida place, but I didn’t and it will be okay. I had tears, my mom had many tears, but our family was their for her and I am so glad I was able to go with her and support her in this.

The thing that keeps me going is believing that someday I will see my dad again in Heaven. And he was a blessing to me while he was here on earth. But this is not our home, not our eternal home, that will be with God.

There is even a blessing in this…

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Protect Your Skin

So my dad passed away from Melanoma in December and I’ve been doing some research about how to protect myself and my family’s skin from the sun; and wanted to share with you, to hopefully help you as well! I know with Spring Break coming up for some, this is the perfect time! ☀️

1. Prevention- wear your sunscreen!!! Everyday!! No matter where you are, even being inside, still apply it! Helpful hint: check the UV index every day, they have nice apps that do it for you and will alert you when it reaches a specific number.

2. Protection

  • Protection includes wearing sunscreen (of course)
  • Sunglasses
  • Hat with a 4 inch brim
  • Specific SPF clothing
  •  Seek shade when you can
  •  Do not burn ( Your risk of developing Melanoma doubles if you have had more than 5 sunburns).
  • At all costs AVOID sun tanning booths.

3. Be aware- what should you look for in a mole:

  • A – Asymmetry (irregular shape)
  • B – Border (irregular border)
  • C – Color (multiple colors)
  • D – Diameter (>6mm in diameter)
  • E – Evolving (change in size, shape and color)

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** If you have a family history of skin cancer, consult a dermatologist to have a skin exam every year or every 6 months.

Please educate yourself and check out these websites:

https://www.skincancer.org/

https://www.cancer.org/

Take care and blessings to you all!

 

 

 

 

 

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Speech from the Celebration of Life service for my Dad

img_3995“Hi everyone, I’m Christy, I’m the baby of the family. First of all, we want to thank everyone for the overwhelming support over the last year since he’s been diagnosed; it’s been rough! Lots of ups and downs and more than once we thought we were going to lose him and he just kept fighting! The last week he was home – mom, us 3 kids, grandkids, brothers and sisters, and close friends all spent time with him and whether he liked it or not; he was never alone ;)”

“The first part of the week he was somewhat responsive and I had a nice lunch with just him, watched some football and shared some good memories. But then the 2nd part of the week it took a lot for him to speak and so we sat silently together and during that time if just sitting with him and holding his hand – I thought about what he was maybe thinking and feeling (because he was not one for sharing much) so I wrote a few words:

Look past the discolor of my skin, look past this too-thin frame

I can hardly lift my head, for my body is too weak and my hair is gone but I will keep smiling

If you looked inside all you’d see is this controlling disease

I will, I will continue to trust, for our God is in control

I have already won this battle on earth, take me home sweet Jesus, take me home

For my hope is in you alone”

Love, your baby Christy

xoxo

 

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“see you later”

This weekend my father went home to his Heavenly Father! He had a year long battle with Melanoma and fought every day, every minute to beat it! He was such a strong, loving, faithful father, husband, grandfather, brother and friend. We love you dad and will miss you more than you will ever know! Thank you for always putting you Faith first and for teaching that to our family!

“We’ll see you later dad! We’ll see you later!”

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“You have fought a good fight”

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Last week Friday, my dad had an appointment to determine next steps for him in this cancer battle and sadly, his oncologist explained that it was time to stop all treatment, he shook my dad’s hand and said “you have fought a good fight”.  Is it a good fight even if you lose?! He is losing his battle with cancer, the cancer is winning and will take his life! Although, my dad had many obstacles and yes, I agree with his doctor that my dad had a fighting spirit every step of the way, but really? A good fight? Maybe. But not a fair fight? maybe not so much, because we knew from day one that this cancer monster had the upper hand!

The end of the month will be a year that we found out his melanoma was back and back with a vengeance; in his liver, lungs and all over his brain, even his skull and lining of his brain had cancer, right away they said surgery was not an option ” too much of it”. So he has fought for a long, hard year! But, I am not ready to give up on him yet…

(and not sure why I chose this picture for this post, but for some reason I did. I see doom and gloom, but maybe, just maybe there is a break in the clouds  🙂 )

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Back and Forth

I continue to struggle with what’s going on in my life, with my daughters anxiety skyrocketing and fathers cancer slowly taking over his body- I go back and forth about what to feel worse about; my daughters mental health breakdown or fathers future?! 😥

I try and think “find something positive” I always find the blessing and feel Satan getting his way with me and winning because I’m sad and just can’t find the blessing right now… but then I read this verse tonight (trying to do devotions on a more regular basis ) while reading the Bible and thought Gods got this! 👊🏻

“The Lord will fight for you; you need only to be still” Exodus 14:14

Even if it’s just for the moment, I will be positive, I will eventually find the blessing…maybe not today, tomorrow or next week but I Will! Because God’s got this!!