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Mom Tip #110 – School Prep ✅✏️📖✂️

Start preparing your kids for school ahead of time, like more than the day before 😉

All 3 of my kids have some type of anxiety around school (really who doesn’t?) so starting to prepare them (and reminders for me) is key for our family!

Here are some tips we use at our house:

  • Ready Checklist ✅ created a simple checklist for my girls, so they know what they need to do before they leave for school. (However, for my son this year, I’ll have to create one with pics, because he can’t read yet) I put it up on the door, just a very simple reminder…for them and me 🙂
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  • Forms/Appointment – did you hand in all the forms and complete all the needed doctor appointments? Hair appointments? Medication refills that your child might have to take to school?
  • School Calendar – Once I have the final school calendar, I put all those dates into my home/work calendar.
    • I also ask for any days off from work I may need for special school occasions.
  • Lunch Notes 📝 this is something my mom would do just once in awhile and I loved it! it was just a nice reminder in the middle of the day that no matter what your mama is thinking, praying and will ALWAYS love you… no matter what happens at school!
    • here a few suggestions, I ordered from Amazon:
      • C.R. Gibson CN63-13645 Lunch Box Notes
      • Lunchbox Jokes: 100 fun Tear-Out Notes for Kids
      • Sprinkled Joy – Designer Lunchbox Notes – 2 packs

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  • I hope and pray everyone has an awesome start to the school year and everything goes smooth 👍🏻
  • Stay safe! Blessings 💕
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“Panic Bag” – Our life with Anxiety

My oldest daughter, has  an anxiety disorder (Conversion Disorder) and last summer it was at an all time high and we were really struggling (happy to report she is doing much better)!  Last year when we learned about it, SHE came up with this idea to create a “Panic Bag” (ideas posted to bottom of this post)! We included all the different ways to help reduce her anxiety (stress ball, puddy, iPod for music, etc.) some anxiety reducing techniques (such as breathing exercises) she learned from her counselor, and her school schedule (schedules are VERY helpful for her, she likes to know what to expect next) . We put it in her backpack, but moved it around to other bags if needed. I also put a smaller version in our car.

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This was a great idea and worked very well for her (and I give her kudos for thinking of it). But I Thought I’d share something that worked for us 🙂 But trust me, there were a lot of things that didn’t work so well either.

I think the key is – anxiety can be very different for everyone and you have to figure out your triggers and what will work for you and/or your family and friends. Anxiety is an increasing mental health disorder, that we continue to learn and read more about. One thing with children, they can have a hard time expressing themselves. For my daughter, she just DIDN’T express herself at all and the anxiety built and built until your body had to figure out a way to express the anxiety she was feeling and this is when she was diagnosed with Conversion Disorder (Conversion disorder is a rare condition in which your brain converts mental stress into physical symptoms).

I wish you all well and please if you have any questions for me, as a parent with a child with anxiety, I would love to help!

Trust me – you are NOT alone! Once we shared what was going on with our daughter, more and more people shared others they knew that were going through the same thing. It is something we need to start and keep talking about!

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Leaving…

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Everyday I leave. I leave for work and I leave my kids and some days this just totally sucks! My older 2 are in school everyday, but while I work I miss a lot of opportunities to be involved in their classes and taking or picking them up from school. My youngest, KC, is 4 and has preschool a couple days a week for about 3 hours, but again I can never drop him off or pick him up from school and most days I only see him for 2 or 3 hours tops at night.

I hate to leave…it breaks my heart 😔 Being a working mom is hard, especially today.

 

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Toby Mac!!!!

This weekend, my girls and I went to a Toby Mac concert!

When I bought these tickets in December, my oldest Addison (with the anxiety disorder) was pretty unstable and I was truly unsure if she’d be able to go. She has increased anxiety around crowds and my fear was her having an anxiety attack in the middle of a crowd and we’re stuck! A nightmare for everyone…but I am happy to report, no nightmare 😊 and we had a blast! Well at least her and I did, her sister (Adrie) fell asleep 😴(not sure how that happens at a concert🤔)but she has the talent of being able to sleep anywhere/anytime…just like her mama!img_7142

This is a big step in our anxiety goals and I am beyond proud of Addison ! She is doing so well, however every day is a new day and we may have set backs and that’s okay too. this is a lifetime adventure that God has placed in our lives and we will make it through it with His guiding hand!

Her sister; Adrie, my “middle child” ( we joke about her being the “middle child” because my sister is middle child and uses that as an excuse for everything that didn’t go well in her childhood 😉 ) Anyways, she has been amazing! Addison was always our go-to, she was a big help in the family, however when everything started doing downhill this summer, Adrie, had to step up to the plate! She has been a rock for me! Hugging me when I need it and making sure she is keeping an eye on her older sister… and even helping with her little brother too! And I wonder; if Addison had not gone through her anxiety adventure this summer, would Adrie have had this “opportunity”?

Either way, I am just beyond blessed that the Lord blessed me with these 2 amazing girls!

We got this! xoxo

 

 

 

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Back and Forth

I continue to struggle with what’s going on in my life, with my daughters anxiety skyrocketing and fathers cancer slowly taking over his body- I go back and forth about what to feel worse about; my daughters mental health breakdown or fathers future?! 😥

I try and think “find something positive” I always find the blessing and feel Satan getting his way with me and winning because I’m sad and just can’t find the blessing right now… but then I read this verse tonight (trying to do devotions on a more regular basis ) while reading the Bible and thought Gods got this! 👊🏻

“The Lord will fight for you; you need only to be still” Exodus 14:14

Even if it’s just for the moment, I will be positive, I will eventually find the blessing…maybe not today, tomorrow or next week but I Will! Because God’s got this!!

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Yes, I do have a lot to be thankful for but…

So our family has had a rough couple weeks, well months actually! With my dads cancer diagnosis just seems to be more bad news all the time and our oldest daughter’s anxiety has reached a high and has complicated every aspect of our lives! It is so hard to see the ones closest to us suffer! Especially my daughter, my husband and I, are at a loss on how to help! Mental disorders vary with each person; on what works and what doesn’t, so it’s tough to figure out the correct treatment for her.

This thanksgiving weekend has been tough, normally we’d go see our families, go to a movie or other fun family activities and we just can’t right now with her. Having to help her takes both my husband and I, and then we have 2 other, younger children, that need us as well. And how do we explain what is happening to her?!

So many questions with no answers and just struggling this weekend – because I am Thankful, God has blessed me more than what I would ever deserve but… I am sad too! And when I hear people talk about how much we have to be thankful for, I feel a negative nudge and I don’t like that! I know God has a plan and I am beyond blessed with so much, but yes, I am asking for more from Him…like more time with my dad, strength for my husband and I to help my daughter , patience for our 2 other children, and for God to heal my daughter’s mind…I’ve never felt this way and I question if it’s okay…

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Mom Tip #106

Okay, here it is…my weakness…my weakness is I LOVE to sleep!! So this next tip, I struggle with and that tip is getting up earlier than your family in the morning!

When I do (very rarely) the morning goes so much smoother and the day just seems to start better!

Every morning I get up about 5 minutes before my kids and I have no time, to myself, to just get a few little things done that make the morning less stressful; like letting the dogs out, getting my glass of orange juice and heck, just go to the bathroom! 🙄

Also, when I’m not rushing through the morning, my kids feel it too! They feel more prepared and less anxious ( which for my daughter with an anxiety disorder is very important!!) otherwise I’m yelling “5 minutes for the bus” “1 minute” “okay bus is here! Don’t forget your shoes” 😬

This is something I’m going to work on…I have to work on! Like I said; for my daughter with anxiety; being prepared and not rushing through the morning and only having 10 minutes to get ready and eat breakfast does not work for her and then we have a whole another set of concerns on our hands! 😕

I can do this…right?! Right?! Right!!! I’ll keep you updated…